My Wild, Dramatic, Borderline -Mythological Hunt for the Perfect Madisar Saree.

Let me start by saying: if anyone had told me that finding a saree would become the greatest challenge of my adult life… I would have laughed.

But no. Destiny laughed back.

Because all I wanted was to recreate this legendary old picture of my Amma (mother-in-law), looking like the Tamil Vogue cover girl of the century.

My Amma (mother-in-law) on her wedding day.

Simple, right? HAHAHA. No.

The Bangalore Mission (aka: The Beginning of My Suffering)

Fast forward seven months before the wedding. I flew to India, fully confident, hydrated, moisturised, and ready to conquer the saree world.

Then Bangalore traffic hit me.

Guys.

I don’t know who hurt Bangalore’s traffic system, but that place moves like a dramatic serial heroine fainting in slow motion.

Between dodging scooters, cows, uncles, and existential crises, I started visiting saree shops… only to realise something...

Why These Feel Like Temples?!

I’m not exaggerating.

These shops smelled like temples. They looked like temples. They operated like temples. There were daily poojas, hourly poojas, surprise poojas, bonus poojas… blessings for the sarees, the shelves, the scissors, the shopkeeper’s cousin…

Everyone got blessed except my patience.

Featuring: My Groom (Who Did Not Ask For This)

My Groom...Manish

For reasons unknown to science, I decided to bring my groom-to-be for saree trials.

This was a mistake.

His face went from supportive → confused → traumatised → “please take me home” → spiritually dead. We still love him though.

The Enlightenment : Ganga Yamuna Border

After days of traffic, sweat, chai, and emotional damage, I finally realised the saree had to be this very special combination called Ganga Yamuna where the borders change colour.

It’s beautiful. It’s magical. It’s also apparently impossible to find.

You can see my entire museum of “sarees I absolutely did NOT buy” right here.

And in my India Highlights? You’ll find the high-level drama my followers patiently guided me through.

Thank you, angels.

The Threat: Buy Something or Else

Finally, my husband issued a gentle but desperate ultimatum: “Please… for everyone’s peace… buy ANYTHING before we leave.”

So I bought one. Dark green. Dark red. Goldfish.

Pure Kanchipuram Silk. Very royal. Very majestic.

Very… NOT ME.

I bought it as Plan B while shopkeepers clutched their hearts watching me promise, “I’ll come back tomorrow!”

(Spoiler: I did not.)

Plot Twist: The Saree Wasn’t in Bangalore.

Of course at the end : I needed more research and me time and I ended up buying it online .

Because why would my life ever be simple?

The perfect saree was actually waiting for me in Chennai, the glorious homeland of the Madisar; where the culture, colours, dance and chaos all make sense

A pure silk, ready-made, half-stitched Madisar that finally gave me main-character energy.

So my loves, if you want to see how this seven-month emotional rollercoaster ended, just follow mine and Apsaras’ Instagram profiles and watchout for the Wedding Series Reel.

Tell me what you think, and check the photos for credits!

With love (and healed trauma),

Valentina